Why are you single? Perhaps it’s the choice effect.
The “choice effect” is that pit in your stomach as soon as the waiter walks away with your food order & you realize you wanted what she’s having. 5 Ways to Tame the Choice Effect: Criteria, Concentration, Common Sense, Calculation, Choose Already.
Criteria – Think about what you need, not a never-ending wish list. Pick the stuff that matters and find someone with those qualities.
Concentration – This world will pull us in lots of directions, and you need to decide what your prize is and keep your eye on it.
Common Sense – Yes, opposites attract. But they aren’t a long-term win. Don’t fall into a relationship that checks none of your boxes.
Calculation – There’s being picky and then there’s being paralyzed. So ask yourself “How long SHOULD this take?”
Choose Already – You don’t get to have everything. And, to be fair, you don’t want to. So choose.
Choosing doesn’t limit choices—it just changes them. So feel free to pick that city, that career, that partner, knowing that even commitment brings a whole new set of options to be excited (and angsty) about.
please excuse me, i need to go to the nearest hospital because i’ve been stabbed.
right at the heart. =))
the complete article: http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2010/06/09/choice-effect-why-are-you-single/